I got dumped

What ‘I Got Dumped’ Really Means and How To Handle It

When I hear someone say, “I got dumped” I cringe. Why? Because the word “dumped” sounds really harsh, mean and insensitive.   I recently received this text from a friend: “I got dumped. He said there just wasn’t a spark.”   First of all, I don’t believe that people “dump” people. I think that is … Read more

what women are attracted to

What Women Are Attracted to: A Guy Who Makes Us Laugh

When I heard about a recent Stanford University study about what women are attracted to, and that revealed the fact that women are more attracted to men who make them laugh, I had to laugh. They had to do a study to figure that out? Isn’t it common knowledge? Yes, if men want to know … Read more

dating as a single parent

Dating As A Single Parent: 15 Fifteen-Minute Date Ideas

I can still remember some amazing dates I had before I was married—the kind of dates that started in the afternoon at a Cubs game or a museum, that continued into dinner, followed by an after-dinner cocktail at a little Lincoln Park Pub or a piano bar. Then, after the drinks, a walk home, which … Read more

dating with a disability

Woman Seeks Advice About Dating With a Disability

This email came from a DGS reader who is about to go through a divorce, and is looking for advice about dating with a disability: I have been married to my second husband for 15 years.  Several years into the marriage, I was diagnosed with a rare condition that has impacted my vision – mostly … Read more

single mom dating tips

You Got This, Girl! 10 Single Mom Dating Tips

Jackie, I’m wondering if you can write about dating as a single mom when your ex is especially difficult.  In any divorce, when you think about dating again, you get overwhelmed, but what if you add to that worries about your ex actually trying to sabotage any attempt to move on, just to “get even.” … Read more

dating-at-50

Dating At 50: No, You Don’t Turn Into A Pumpkin When You Turn 50

Question from a reader: I have a question about dating at 50. For some reason, men in their 50s are judged by different criteria, not looks alone, whereas for women, physical appearance still is a primary criteria. I am 52. I hear feedback from many men my age that they are simply not attracted to … Read more

loving relationship

Want A Guarantee for A Loving Relationship? One Word

I have written many articles on the importance of trust, respect, attraction and other things needed for a healthy, loving relationship. But couples will not be able to sustain these things without one component. In other words, what’s the one word that makes the difference between staying happy together or being unhappy together and/or getting … Read more

how to not get dumped

How to NOT Get Dumped: Avoid these 5 Behaviors

You got divorced and began dating. You never thought you’d meet someone you’d fall in love with again. And then you did!! Things couldn’t be better. You’ve never been happier. So, how do you stay happy? Here is my advice for a wonderfully healthy relationship, and how to not get dumped. How to not get dumped … Read more

how to find real love

How to Find Real Love and Keep It

What is it about finding and keeping good love that seems so difficult and/or challenging for some of us? Wondering how to find real love and keep it? You hear about the divorce rate being at an all-time high- especially for people over 50 who are becoming empty nesters and losing the glue that held … Read more

cheating spouse

You Have A Right To Ask Questions To Your Cheating Spouse

You can’t shake the feelings once you’ve been cheated on. The disbelief; the shock; the devastation. The disorienting sensation that you don’t know what’s true—all compounded by a surreal realization that you don’t know who your cheating spouse is anymore. It’s an entirely bewildering experience. You might start questioning your every move. Am I being too … Read more