the L word

Have You Said The L Word Lately?

Almost every person I’ve ever talked to who is newly divorced says one or more of these things in reference to dating after divorce: “I will never get married again,” or “I’m done saying the L word, it’s just not in the cards for me,” or “I am never going to meet someone, ever again” … Read more

rules of opposite gender friendships

Rules of Opposite Gender Friendships

Platonic friendships have always been important to me. I had many male friends when I was single, dating, married, and now divorced. But are there rules of opposite gender friendships? And how do they apply to people who are either in relationships or married? Here are 4 rules of opposite gender friendships:   1.    It’s … Read more

having sex after divorce

Having Sex after Divorce: Getting Naked Can be Really Scary!

Having sex after divorce is a scary thought for a lot of people. Think about it. You have slept in the same bed with the same man for what? 10 years? 20 years? 30 years? Now you are separated or divorced. Inevitably, you are going to start dating, and you are going to meet someone … Read more

post-divorce commitment phobia

Do You Have Post Divorce Commitment Phobia?

I bet if you asked all the divorced people on earth what they want as far as their romantic life moving forward, I bet you’d get a different answer from each and every one. It’s a little like right and left wing politics. There are those on one end of the spectrum who are hoping … Read more

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Can’t Get A Date? 10 Things to do if You Are in a Dating Dry Spell

Whenever there’s a thunderstorm, it always ends. So does a drought, a snowstorm, a hurricane, or even an earthquake. Guess what? So does a dating dry spell! I know this from experience. So, if you feel like you can’t get a date to save your life, read on! Before I was married, and then again … Read more

new relationship

Don’t Ask These Questions In A New Relationship

Picture this. You’re lying in bed with the man you’ve fallen madly in love with. It’s only been a few months, (still a new relationship) but you are SURE he’s the one. He just kissed you and you feel happier and more loved and content than you’ve ever felt in your life. Finally! You’re done … Read more

why men and women cheat

Forget Why Men and Women Cheat, Here’s Why they DON’T Cheat

I feel like there are many, many articles written about why men and women cheat. Why? Because divorced people want to understand why their spouse broke up their marriage for another person, which is very understandable. Plus, people want to know the reasons so that they can prevent cheating from happening in their next relationship. … Read more

why do I attract losers

Why Do I Attract Losers? 3 Reasons And How To Stop

“Why do I attract losers?” I woman I know recently asked me through tears. Here’s her story. She has been divorced for almost 10 years. She was dating a man for 3 years, and thought everything was perfect until she found out he cheated with multiple women. She’s heartbroken. Was she just unlucky? Did this … Read more

fighting with your boyfriend

Fighting with Your Boyfriend? Fight Fair!

I think it’s pretty safe to say that one of the reasons people get divorced is because they fight or argue a lot with their spouse. What starts out as bickering can turn into shouting, insults, name calling, and cruel remarks, which can turn into pouting, or days on end of not speaking to each … Read more

where to go on a first date

Where To Go On A First Date? Coffee House Or Bar?

The good news: you met someone and your first date is set. But deciding where to go on a first date could present some stress. What are some good options? Do you meet at Starbucks and keep things sober? Will he pick you up and take you to a romantic dinner? I once had a … Read more

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If you are enjoying the blog posts on Divorced Girl Smiling, check out my romantic comedy novel about divorce, Free Gift With Purchase! It’s the story of two sisters who lean on each other when both find themselves single again in their 40’s. There are so many hilarious and heartfelt stories and moments in Free … Read more

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Should I Break Up With My Boyfriend? We Have Advice

Are you wondering and asking your friends, “Should I break up with my boyfriend?” If you are even asking, the answer is probably yes. But you already knew that. Otherwise, you wouldn’t be seeking advice. Still, I’d love to help you figure it out. Should I break up with my boyfriend? Let’s start by recognizing … Read more