do you love yourself

He Might Not Love You Anymore, But Do You Love Yourself?

Do you love yourself? He might not love you anymore. You might not love him anymore. The love is gone. But where is the love for yourself? During and after a divorce, that really  really matters. Let me explain. I asked this question in the Divorced Girl Smiling Facebook group: What is something you’ve done … Read more

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How to Help Children Through Divorce: 6 Best Practices

Divorce is a trying experience for adults.  With children, divorce can be devastating if it is not handled well by the parents.  Couples pursuing the dissolution of their marriage always want to know how to help children through divorce. From my perspective as an attorney, there are some actions that can be taken to ensure … Read more

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When the Divorce is Final: A Story that Will Inspire Your Heart

When the divorce is final, everyone has his or her own unique way of handling the experience. My friend, Mary Beth is someone who has gone through many life transitions. Mary Beth, a 60 year-old successful business executive said that when her life is undergoing a significant change, she turns to rituals for the purpose … Read more

running into your ex

How to Handle Yourself When Running into Your Ex

Running into your ex can be an emotionally taxing experience that throw you off your game. When you know in advance you’ll be in the same place, you can prepare yourself and manage your feelings. When it is unexpected, regardless of the location, such encounters can stir up a range of overwhelming feelings and really … Read more

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A New Chapter Begins: Embracing Your Post-Divorce Life

 Diving into the world of divorce is like stepping onto a rollercoaster you never intended to ride—no one gets married thinking it will end in divorce. It’s complex, filled with unexpected turns, and, sometimes, it can get really scary. The reasons people find themselves on this ride are as varied as the individuals themselves. Some … Read more

unwanted anger

How Much Unwanted Anger Do You Have?

How Much Unwanted Anger Do You Have? There is a lot of anger in the world today. There can be lots of anger in our own lives as well.  Some of this anger may be useful at times.  Most often, however, anger can be very destructive.   Definitions of anger and unwanted anger   Let’s … Read more

bad reasons to get divorced

8 Bad Reasons to Get Divorced

Divorce has become an increasingly common solution to marital problems today. While there are certainly situations where divorce may be the best option for all parties involved, there are bad reasons to get divorced. That’s why it’s essential to consider the potential consequences and alternatives before making such a life-altering decision. Although our Family Law … Read more

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Dealing With Divorce Anxiety By Thinking Differently

Anxiety and divorce go together. In fact, I think anxiety and fear are two of the most prevalent emotions in divorce, and they last the longest. If you think about it, it makes sense. Between worrying about children, finances, living alone, the divorce process itself (litigation or mediation), maintaining a relationship with your ex, and … Read more

the ripple effect

The Ripple Effect of Divorce

As a divorce coach, I have the opportunity to walk with my clients through their divorce process. While all divorces start and end at the same points, the route between the decision to end the marriage and the finalization of the divorce is unique to each couple. Ever heard of the ripple effect? The ripple … Read more

Why Italy is the Perfect Way to Supplement Therapy Post Divorce

Getting divorced is traumatic, which is why therapy is so common during this time. But I want to share a perfect way to supplement therapy, (if you are in therapy) and it’s one word: Italy.   The women I meet who have been through a divorce all want similar things:         To … Read more

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Happy Birthday to My Dad in Heaven

When it comes to parents, I hit the lottery. Although no childhood is perfect, I had the gift of both a mom and a dad who were loving, caring and supportive. My dad, Zack Pilossoph, who passed away 7 years ago today, was an amazing person in business, in our community, to his friends, and … Read more