Tips and advice for men and women who have recently split up from a spouse and are now getting divorced.
I find that when people get divorced, oftentimes, they spend a significant time thinking about what went wrong, diagnosing the issues and their ex’s behavior, and replaying the demise of the marriage over and over and over again. Why is he the way he is? He’s a narcissist! Why did he do this or that? He’s so selfish! How … Read more
Divorce can be one of the most stressful and emotional experiences in a person’s life. In Illinois, there are multiple ways to approach the legal process of ending a marriage, and two of the most common methods are “mediation” and “litigation”. Let’s weigh the two: mediation vs litigation. Both have distinct characteristics and can have … Read more
Ever have one of those days when everything in your divorce seems really unfair? Let’s talk about an unfair divorce. I’ll start with an example. I talked to a woman recently who has a full time job and is struggling to pay her bills. Her ex has not paid child support (which was court … Read more
Buying a house for the first time after divorce? It’s scary! It’s stressful! It’s exciting! I understand all of those emotions.Whether you’re stepping into the real estate market for the first time or re-entering it as a newly divorced individual, finding the right buyer’s agent is crucial. What exactly is a a buyer’s agent? A … Read more
We all know how difficult the divorce process is. In addition to feelings of loss and sadness, the legal process of divorce can be overwhelming and burdensome. But when your spouse is hiding money, orif you suspect it, it takes things to another level. It’s bad enough that you have to walk away from this … Read more
Jackie, is my spouse an alcoholic? My husband of 11 years(and father of my two kids) has been drinking much more than he used to. In fact, he now drinks at least a 6 pack of beer every night, or sometimes a bottle of wine. I keep finding empty booze bottles around, and our trash … Read more
Divorce is a tough time and if you are thinking, ‘I am not okay,’ or you are expressing that to friends, family, your therapist and/or your coach, I think that’s perfectly okay. It’s okay not to be okay. But first, how do we know when we are not okay? Many of us are so caught … Read more
Want to know how to win at divorce? It’s the small wins. When I think about celebrating small wins, it reminds me of a story from a client who we’ll call Mary. Mary was navigating her divorce with the weight of the world on her shoulders, feeling overwhelmed by the unknown. She wasn’t sure where to … Read more
Are you comparing your divorce to your girlfriends’ divorces? Don’t and here’s why: Because every divorce case is unique. I want to start off by explaining that there are six people who will determine what happens in your divorce: 1. You. 2. Your Ex. 3. The mediator. 4. His lawyer. 5. Your lawyer. 6. The … Read more
Thinking divorce? Knowledge is power. When you know what to expect before, during, and after divorce, you can better prepare for your future. But divorce is an emotional and stressful experience. Equip yourself now with the information you need to make informed decisions – rather than emotional ones – to secure the financial and emotional … Read more
Have you ever heard the term “divorce month?” January, “Divorce Month” is the month when divorce lawyers commonly report a marked increase in inquiries about divorce. Some attorneys even see a rise of as much as 25-30 percent. Supporting anecdotal reports of a January surge, a Google Trend search of “divorce lawyer“ shows that January and July have been a peak for the search term for the past five years. What‘s going on? Why is January “Divorce Month?” Here are … Read more
Have you ever heard the song, Levitating, by Dua Lipa? It was released a few years ago, but I had never heard it until a couple days ago. On our way home from our early New Year’s Eve dinner, my daughter put it on in the car. When I heard it, I went nuts. I … Read more
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