the emotional stages of divorce

The Emotional Stages of Divorce Are Like A Roller Coaster Ride

 When I was going through my divorce, everyone said “This must be such a sad time for you.” But actually, even more than sadness, what I remember about that time several summers ago was that it felt like a roller coaster of highs and lows. I’m talking about the emotional stages of divorce. One minute … Read more

Illlinois Divorce Laws

Five Illinois Divorce Laws to Consider in Your Divorce

The process of getting married can be relatively easy, no matter where you live. However, the divorce process can be tough in any state!  Most divorces come with emotional, financial, and practical stressors. With the help of your divorce attorney, arming yourself with knowledge is key to confidence and peace of mind as you go … Read more

looking at the bright side

Looking at the Bright Side of Divorce

When I was first going through my divorce, I just wanted to wake up from the nightmare that was my life and let out a really huge scream.  I didn’t want to eat, I couldn’t sleep.  Focus?  What was that?  Life as I knew it died.  And it was an excruciating death.  Then, I started … Read more

closure after breakup

Closure after a Breakup: “I Want a Sit Down With My Ex”

How many times have you heard someone say (or have you said it) “I need closure”? Is there anything that feels more cleansing to a person than to sit and tell your ex how you feel? Listen to how your ex feels? Perhaps apologize for things or get an apology from him? Express regrets/how you … Read more

When getting divorced

4 Mistakes When Getting Divorced and How to Avoid Making Them

When getting divorced, jumping into the process without being fully prepared for what is to come can lead to several critical and potentially costly mistakes. Fortunately, with the right preparation, mistakes can be avoided. Here are four common mistakes people make when getting divorced, along with how to avoid making them: Mistake No. 1: Failing … Read more

anger in divorce

How Anger in Divorce Can Hurt Everyone Involved

Anger in divorce is understandable. But making decisions based on anger can hurt everyone involved, including your kids and you. Here is an email I received from an angry dad: My wife and I are getting divorced. She definitely has a personality disorder and I just couldn’t take it anymore. We have three kids and … Read more

when your ex gets married quickly

When Your Ex Gets Married Quickly: Feelings It Can Cause

What do you do when you get divorced, and when your ex gets married quickly? That’s what happened to this reader:  My husband fell in love with another woman. He even said that if he had a plate of food I was only 1 of the items while she was the whole plate and everything … Read more

area of self care

One Area of Self Care is Wealth Care

We all have routines in our lives. Some are daily habits of self care, like taking care of our skin or exercising, while others occur less frequently but still play a regular role, such as doctor appointments or therapy sessions. These self care routines help us stay grounded and maintain our physical and mental well-being. … Read more

co-parenting communication

4 Tips to Improving Co-Parenting Communication

During a separation or after a divorce, it can be hard for former partners to maintain any kind of relationship. Yet in situations where children are involved, parenting does not end even if the relationship does. Therefore, working to build and maintain positive co-parenting communication skills is valuable. If you find yourself feeling as though … Read more

first time home buyer after divorce

First Time Home Buyer after Divorce?

Being a first time home buyer after divorce isn’t uncommon. Maybe you were a homeowner, but you bought your home with your husband years ago. Now that you are getting divorced, you might be buying a home solo for the first time in a long time, or maybe even for the first time ever.  Buying … Read more