Tips and advice for men and women who have recently split up from a spouse and are now getting divorced.
As a divorce attorney of 17 years, I have seen how emotionally challenging divorce can be. The stress of not knowing what your post-divorce life is going to look like is scary and unnerving. Clients often ask me, “What can be used against you in a divorce?’ I’ve had clients tell me they feel like … Read more
Dating during divorce: It’s so tempting, given all the pain and loneliness you are feeling after years of unhappiness with your spouse. What better to take your mind off your misery and boost your self esteem than a few dates with someone who is actually interested in you? And, if one of those “dates” leads to a … Read more
Abuse is not always as obvious as a physical altercation. In fact, many victims of abuse may not even realize they are in an abusive relationship because it doesn’t involve physical violence. That’s why I so often hear the question, “If he didn’t hit me is it abuse?” Abuse can take various forms, and it’s … Read more
Is a happy life after divorce possible? Absolutely! In fact, a happy life after divorce is not only possible, but probable if you decide to create a happy life for yourself. We can prepare for many things in life, but going through a divorce is typically not something any of us anticipate and finding happiness through … Read more
Many people think a divorce trial ends in big courtroom drama. But in reality, most cases get settled, often through mediation, before they ever reach trial. It’s more often about finding common ground than fighting it out in court. Having said that, a small percentage of divorces can and do go to trial in North … Read more
Do these questions and thoughts sound familiar? “Why me? Why would God do this to me? What did I do to deserve this? Why are others so happy in marriage and I’m not? What’s wrong with me? I’m pissed off. I can’t take any more bad stuff happening to me.” I call these the “feeling … Read more
When people go through a divorce, children rank among their biggest concerns. Are they going to be OK? How will the divorce affect them? Are they going to suffer PTSD? Will the effects of the divorce show up when the kids are grown? There are all very normal questions that cause anxiety during and after … Read more
Divorce is never easy, but it can be particularly challenging when one or both spouses are serving in the military. In this article, I’d like to shed some light on the process of military divorce, and offer you some valuable tips to navigate through it smoothly. San Diego’s Unique Military Community First things first, let’s … Read more
When people think of abuse in a marriage or relationship, they tend to think of physical abuse-hitting, shoving, punching; hurting the victim’s body somehow. But there’s another kind of relationship abuse and it’s more difficult to see because there are no visible bruises: emotional abuse. A victim of emotional abuse sometimes doesn’t even realize he/she … Read more
I get many, many emails from women who reach out because of the intense pain they are feeling when their husband leaves them for another woman. Among other emotions of divorce, they tell me they are in shock, devastated, angry, scared, resentful, bitter, and beyond sad and upset. They are feeling very alone, their life … Read more
Navigating the landscape of divorce can be an emotionally taxing journey, and when combined with the complexities of alcohol addiction, the road ahead can appear even more daunting. Divorcing parents may be surprised to find that the answer to “Is alcoholism a disorder or a disease” is “both.” But this is very important: What alcoholism … Read more
Of all the emails I have ever received, (and there’s a lot) this one truly left me heartbroken: No One Knows My pain. What do people do when there is no one left who loves them or even cares? Let me offer a little bit of this reader’s background. She is in her early … Read more
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