why couldn't he change for me

Why Couldn’t He Change For Me? We Have Answers

One of the most difficult, frustrating aspects of a break up or a divorce is seeing the other person become involved with someone else, and not only appearing to be blissfully happy, but seemingly being the perfect spouse! It’s crazy, it’s infuriating, and  it’s hard to comprehend. Now he’s doing all these things with this … Read more

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The Brutal Pain Of Divorce And 7 Reasons You Will End Up Happy

I cannot describe how heartbreaking I feel when I read comments on Divorced Girl Smiling like this one, that unveil the brutal pain of divorce:   How do you shake the “never want to wake up” feeling? I’m so miserable. Every single day is pain and I just want to give up.   Before I … Read more

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19 Tips for Those Facing a High Conflict Divorce

What exactly is a high conflict divorce? Some people describe it as a battle, a stressful time filled with anger, resentment and hate, a time when kids are put in the middle and see the ugliness of their parents fighting, both in court and at home.   Believe it or not, only about 8-15% of … Read more

I am angry with God

I Am Angry With God About My Divorce

Read this email I received from a newly separated mom, who says, “I am angry with God about my divorce.”   I find myself completely hopeless and I am angry with God about my divorce.  My 3rd husband, for whom I left my 2nd husband just could not handle being a stepfather and hated my … Read more

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He Has A New Girlfriend Already! How To Handle It

Your divorce isn’t even final yet, and he has a new girlfriend already. Here she is, all smiles, happy and glowing. Her hair is perfect. Her nails are always done, even her toenails look good. This girl has prepped to the hilt. She’s still in that new relationship phase when she’s got to look perfect … Read more

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Why Some People Recover From Divorce And Others Stay Stuck

We all know that divorce, especially high conflict divorce, can be devastating. Some men and women are so traumatized, that it takes them years to recover from divorce. Really high conflict divorces have even been known to cause post traumatic stress disorder (PTSD).   Yet, while some men and women struggle to survive, others thrive. Instead … Read more

how to get through a divorce emotionally

7 Tips On How To Get Through a Divorce Emotionally

I’d like to share some tips on how to get through a divorce emotionally. Divorce truly is an emotional roller coaster. Ups and downs. One day you feel amazing…confident and great about the future, and then something happens and you feel crushed and scared and insecure and hopeless. I would say that that’s how it … Read more

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How to Ask Forgiveness from Someone You’ve Hurt

How do you ask for forgiveness from someone you’ve hurt?    Something I see happen in many of my mediation sessions is one person attempting to apologize to the other. But there are many kinds of apologies. For instance, one type of apology can demonstrate a person is taking responsibility for their actions. At the … Read more

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How To Deal With An Angry Ex Husband Sending Mean Texts

Couples often show their worst selves during a divorce, and that includes mean and angry text messages and/or emails. It’s not easy trying to figure out how to deal with an angry ex husband sending mean messages, especially when you’re not expecting them.  Let me explain… Picture this. You are sitting in front of the … Read more

divorcing with a business

Divorcing with a Business in Texas: A Guide

In Texas, when you are divorcing with a business, court proceedings often get complex. Business ownership can complicate a divorce proceeding because the court seeks to provide a just and right division of property for both parties, which may not necessarily coincide with your views on what an equal division is. A just and right division … Read more

Father's Day

A Checklist For Divorced Moms On Father’s Day

There are only a few guarantees when it comes to most divorce cases. Two of them include: Mom gets the kids on Mother’s Day and Dad gets them on Father’s Day. I’d have to bet it’s written that way in almost every divorce decree, not including cases of sole custody and other special circumstances.   … Read more