Tips and advice for men and women who have recently split up from a spouse and are now getting divorced.
From a reader: I found out my ex-husband is having a baby with his girlfriend, an affair that carried on for a long time, even during my marriage. I am probably most mad at myself on how I could have been so blind. It makes me wonder if he ever loved me at all. … Read more
My co-mediation partner and I get weekly calls from prospective clients asking about mediation. “How do I tell my spouse I want to divorce?” “We are friendly and do not want attorneys involved…” “We both love our children,” “This has been coming for a long time,” and other similar questions and statements. Oftentimes, my first … Read more
Does the other parent of your child go out of their way to limit your time with your child? Does the other parent speak poorly about you in front of your child? Does the other parent refuse to share important information or major updates with you about your child? Does the other parent make things … Read more
Ever talk to yourself? Of course you do. “Why am I being so stupid?” “Why did I say that to her?” “I hope I didn’t say anything dumb.” “This dress used to be fit so much better.” “I’m old.” “I screwed up again.” Sound familiar? I bet most people engage in this kind of negative … Read more
Divorce is a time when emotions are high, and when people are experiencing so many different — often competing — feelings, which are continually changing. For example, you can go from being very sad one morning to experiencing hopeful thoughts in the afternoon, only to be consumed by fear in the evening. Among the many … Read more
What happens with the in-laws after divorce? I don’t think I have to tell anyone how emotionally difficult it is to get divorced. Sources of stress can include: feeling lonely, being scared, experiencing financial stress, worrying about the kids, paying legal bills, finding a new place to live, trying to keep your home, and dating. … Read more
This article comes from the bottom of my heart. Being newly separated or newly divorcedcan play a huge role when it comes to self-confidence. Going through a divorce can cause even someone with normally great self-esteem to have self-doubt and insecurities. The good news is, the lack of self-confidence is temporary a lot of times. … Read more
Do people get divorced and never look back? Some do. But I think most divorced men and women spend weeks, months, years, and even decades in some cases, rehashing things that happened in their marriage, looking back and second guessing decisions they made before, during and after their divorce. Some wonder if they gave up … Read more
Divorce is scary, and even scarier if you are not prepared for it. There are many decisions that you will have to make in the upcoming days, weeks and months during the divorce process, and when you don’t even know where to start, even the smallest decisions may seem daunting. Having been a divorce attorney … Read more
From the beginning of the mediation process through the last time we see our clients, we continuously stress during our co-mediation sessions, emails, phone calls and texts, that the goal of this process should always be to focus on the best interests of their kids. We tell parents that their children are our clients and … Read more
I thought it was important to write about an issue that is oftentimes brushed under the rug, but extremely important, especially during divorce. I’m talking about drinking wine every night to soothe anxiety about divorce and just relax. I’m not judging because I did it. When I was first separated, I began drinking wine a … Read more
Of all the emotions a person can feel while going through a divorce–fear, sadness, guilt, self-pity, anger, and resentment, one of the worst ones might be frustration. Frustration during divorce is very hard to cope with. Why? Because frustration during divorce stems from situations in which you have no control. Frustration happens when you … Read more
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