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How to be Independent in Life after Divorce

For many people, one of the scariest things about getting divorced is having to be much more independent. For example, I have a friend who moved right from her parent’s house into the home she shared with her husband for 30 years until they got divorced. I remember when she was going through her divorce, … Read more

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Honey, I Want A Divorce: When A Woman Decides to Leave

Below is an email from a reader who explained that she is going through a divorce, and that the divorce was HER decision. She asked me if I could give her some advice for when a woman decides to leave. In other words, how does one deal with the immense guilt of leaving your husband, … Read more

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My Ex Is In Love With Someone Else Now: How To Cope

From a reader who writes,“My ex is in love with someone else now:” I have a very difficult situation. My ex is in love with someone else now. I have been loving my ex wife for 20 years and I’m only 41. We separated about 5 years ago and our divorce was final two years … Read more

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Can You Go Back to Court after a Divorce is Final?

Can you go back to court after a divorce is final? Absolutely. As a divorce attorney, I understand that things change. The parenting plan, finances, and life situations may look different years after the divorce is final, hence the need to possibly call your attorney and discuss going back to court, returning to collaborative process, … Read more

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My Ex Hates Me: 8 Reasons Why He’s Angry And Hateful Towards You

Have you ever just felt like, ‘My ex hates me’? Sure you have, and it’s frustrating. It’s hard to understand how a person who used to be your husband (or wife) can switch gears so abruptly in a divorce. What I mean by that is, once loving, kind and caring towards you in your marriage, … Read more

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Ouch. Advice for: ‘My Ex-Husband is Having a Baby With His Girlfriend’

From a reader: I found out my ex-husband is having a baby with his girlfriend, an affair that carried on for a long time, even during my marriage.  I am probably most mad at myself on how I could have been so blind. It makes me wonder if he ever loved me at all.   … Read more

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How to Convince Your Spouse to Divorce with Mediation

My co-mediation partner and I get weekly calls from prospective clients asking about mediation. “How do I tell my spouse I want to divorce?”  “We are friendly and do not want attorneys involved…” “We both love our children,” “This has been coming for a long time,”  and other similar questions and statements. Oftentimes, my first … Read more

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Parental Alienation Against a Mother or a Father

Does the other parent of your child go out of their way to limit your time with your child? Does the other parent speak poorly about you in front of your child? Does the other parent refuse to share important information or major updates with you about your child? Does the other parent make things … Read more

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What’s Up with the Negative Self-Talk During Divorce? Just Stop.

Ever talk to yourself? Of course you do. “Why am I being so stupid?” “Why did I say that to her?” “I hope I didn’t say anything dumb.” “This dress used to be fit so much better.” “I’m old.” “I screwed up again.” Sound familiar? I bet most people engage in this kind of negative … Read more

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How to Deal With Anger and Rage During Divorce

Divorce is a time when emotions are high, and when people are experiencing so many different — often competing — feelings, which are continually changing. For example, you can go from being very sad one morning to experiencing hopeful thoughts in the afternoon, only to be consumed by fear in the evening. Among the many … Read more

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Still Friends or What? What Happens With the In-laws After Divorce?

What happens with the in-laws after divorce? I don’t think I have to tell anyone how emotionally difficult it is to get divorced. Sources of stress can include: feeling lonely, being scared, experiencing financial stress, worrying about the kids, paying legal bills, finding a new place to live, trying to keep your home, and dating. … Read more

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You’re One Beautiful Divorced Girl! 15 Self-Confidence Boosters

This article comes from the bottom of my heart. Being newly separated or newly divorcedcan play a huge role when it comes to self-confidence. Going through a divorce can cause even someone with normally great self-esteem to have self-doubt and insecurities. The good news is, the lack of self-confidence is temporary a lot of times.  … Read more