Tips and advice for men and women who have recently split up from a spouse and are now getting divorced.
Feeling alone and depressed on your birthday during or after your divorce? I remember my first birthday (a month after my husband moved out) and crying a lot that day. Birthdays, including those during or after divorce, can make us feel old, and like time is going by and maybe we are running out of … Read more
Being married can be wonderful. Even though I ended up divorced, I really really liked some things about being married. There are also some things that I truly truly do not miss about being married. The list below was made by a good friend of mine and I, who after a couple glasses of wine … Read more
Read the e-mail I received from a woman wondering how to start a separation. I felt like the best way to give her advice was to give her a “To-do list.” Hi Jackie, Today’s been a rough day–my husband just told me (after 14 years of marriage) that he plans to leave me after he’s … Read more
There are so many emotional benefits of having a dog, especially during or after divorce, and that’s what I’d like to share in this article. Believe me when I tell you that I was never a dog person. I didn’t dislike dogs, but other than a casual “courtesy pet” when I saw my friends’ dogs, … Read more
There are many, many heartbreaking and difficult aspects of getting a divorce. There is shock, sadness, fear of change, loneliness, frustration, the feeling of failure, anger resentment, and so much more. But there is one thing that I believe might be the hardest part of getting a divorce: lack of control, specifically when your kids … Read more
Shock, fear, anxiety, depression, anger, frustration and bitterness are all difficult but common feelings during divorce. Then there’s hopelessness; those times when you feel like you’ve hit rock bottom, nothing will ever get better, and things will never change: the times you say to your girlfriends, “I feel hopeless.” For me, hopelessness was one of … Read more
As divorced parents, my former spouse and I worked hard to set aside our differences to celebrate our children’s milestones. We made it through numerous birthdays, graduations, and athletic tournaments with courtesy, kindness, and warmth. This next milestone, however, is an especially big one for my family, and somehow it just feels more significant than … Read more
I love purses. I just do. I always have. I love shopping for purses, I love having different purses to match different outfits, and I love the fact that purses don’t come in sizes and your purse can make your outfit, no matter how bloated you feel on any certain day. I would highly recommend … Read more
Thinking about how to tell your kids about the divorce? That is perhaps the most heartbreaking and difficult aspect of a divorce. As parents, we are all so protective of our children, both physically and emotionally, and the last thing a parent wants to do is deliver news about divorce to the children that will … Read more
When clients are going through a divorce, I find that oftentimes they are focused on getting through it and getting it over with. In other words, the urgency to get past what feels like a crisis becomes the biggest priority. While I certainly understand that mindset, I urge clients to look at the big picture; … Read more
From a reader: How do I rebuild my life after divorce? I’ve sunken into a deep depression and feel scared about starting over after divorce at 40. I’ve been with my husband for over 13 years and I found out that this is the third time he has cheated on me. Prior it was Internet/phone … Read more
Divorce is hard. Anyone who has ever gone through one will tell you that. But what happens when you get divorced, fall in love again, and then find yourself going through another divorce? Many clients tell me that second divorce is just as hard as a first divorce, mainly because they are experiencing second divorce … Read more
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