same-sex divorce in Illinois

Same-sex Divorce in Illinois Has Its Challenges

Since 2014, same-sex marriage has been legal in the United States. This means that the legal process for divorce is the same for LGBTQ couples as it is for everybody. Although the legal process is the same, there can often be challenges in a same-sex divorce in Illinois that are not present in divorces in … Read more

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Filing for Divorce? What Women Need To Know Beforehand

More than half of the prospective clients who call me are women.  Women tend to initiate divorce proceedings–including filing for divorce, more than men. Some women, however, may not be completely prepared for the divorce process. During the first consultation(s) I have with a woman considering filing for divorce, there are certain things that I … Read more

myths about mediation

12 Truths and Myths about Mediation

Mediation is a word people usually are not familiar with unless they are going through a divorce. Even when you hear the word mediation, it can sound confusing, complicated and even scary—especially if you hear myths about mediation that are simply just false. The truth is, mediation is the exact opposite of confusing, complicated and … Read more

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When Divorced Couples Disagree about the COVID Vaccine

Divorced couples might have different opinions and argue on many issues, including finances, lifestyle and the children. But once a marital settlement agreement is in place, (when the couple is officially divorced) they have an obligation to adhere to the terms set forth in the agreement. There is a new potential disagreement that most likely … Read more

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Chicago Divorce Attorney Answers Your Questions

Daniel Stefani has been a Chicago divorce attorney for almost 3 decades, and is the co-Founder of the law firm, Katz & Stefani. In his guest post, Stefani offers some common questions he hears from newly separated clients, along with his answers and advice.    Common Questions Chicago Divorce Attorney, Daniel Stefani Hears “How much … Read more

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Three of the Biggest Issues that Arise in Divorce Mediation

Since we have been working together as divorce mediators for almost 14 years, my partner Brian James and I have started to see divorce mediation themes which arise and enable us to advise our clients on best practices and ways to deal with certain issues and roadblocks in the mediation process.   Here are three … Read more

best divorce advice

Who Gives The Best Divorce Advice And Who You Should Ignore

Tell someone you are divorced (or getting divorced) and you are sure to get an earful, most times without even asking! “I had a feeling…” “Men are such jerks!” “I never liked him anyhow” “Oh, I’m so sorry, was he cheating?” and my favorite, (and this is usually accompanied by the person putting his or … Read more

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Parenting Time and Your Child’s Birthday

One of the many very difficult aspects of being newly separated or divorced is dealing with parenting time, child custody agreements, and not being able to see your kids every day. I can remember crying hysterically the first night my kids slept out of the house. Just 3 and 5 back then, I remember thinking, … Read more

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Two Divorce Takeaways from the Demi Moore Book, “Inside Out”

This article is not a review of the Demi Moore book, “Inside out,” but rather  about two takeaways I truly appreciated and thought were applicable to women getting divorced and their lives after divorce. Two Divorce Takeaways from the Demi Moore Book, “Inside Out”   Let me tell you the three words that got me … Read more

divorce regret

Divorce Regret: “I’ve Broken My Own Heart”

I think there are a lot of men and women out there who have divorce regret. Some might not admit it to themselves or to anyone else, others tell everyone they know that they regret getting divorced. I feel for people who have divorce regret. They wish they could turn back time. The divorce regret … Read more

dreaming about your ex

Dreaming about Your Ex During or After Divorce?

After a separation or divorce, we can have dreams that are, well … confusing. Dreams, unbound by our  conscious inhibitions, paint a picture that we might not be up for. Dreams where you are not behaving according to how you know you feel. Dreaming about your ex during or after divorce can leave you feeling … Read more

How does mediation work

How Does Mediation Work? A Step-by-Step Process

If you are reading this article, you most likely want to get divorced from your spouse.  As painful and scary as it is, by now, you know it is the best thing for you and your children. Now the question becomes, “How?” How do we get divorced in the most productive and peaceful way, and … Read more