parenting time

Parenting Time and Your Child’s Birthday

One of the many very difficult aspects of being newly separated or divorced is dealing with parenting time, child custody agreements, and not being able to see your kids every day. I can remember crying hysterically the first night my kids slept out of the house. Just 3 and 5 back then, I remember thinking, … Read more

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Two Divorce Takeaways from the Demi Moore Book, “Inside Out”

This article is not a review of the Demi Moore book, “Inside out,” but rather  about two takeaways I truly appreciated and thought were applicable to women getting divorced and their lives after divorce. Two Divorce Takeaways from the Demi Moore Book, “Inside Out”   Let me tell you the three words that got me … Read more

divorce regret

Divorce Regret: “I’ve Broken My Own Heart”

I think there are a lot of men and women out there who have divorce regret. Some might not admit it to themselves or to anyone else, others tell everyone they know that they regret getting divorced. I feel for people who have divorce regret. They wish they could turn back time. The divorce regret … Read more

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Dreaming about Your Ex During or After Divorce?

After a separation or divorce, we can have dreams that are, well … confusing. Dreams, unbound by our  conscious inhibitions, paint a picture that we might not be up for. Dreams where you are not behaving according to how you know you feel. Dreaming about your ex during or after divorce can leave you feeling … Read more

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How Does Mediation Work? A Step-by-Step Process

If you are reading this article, you most likely want to get divorced from your spouse.  As painful and scary as it is, by now, you know it is the best thing for you and your children. Now the question becomes, “How?” How do we get divorced in the most productive and peaceful way, and … Read more

negative effects of divorce on children

7 Things That Contribute To Negative Effects of Divorce on Children

Research has shown that the most damaging part of divorce for children is involving them in loyalty binds.  A loyalty bind happens when a child must make a choice that will be wrong with one parent and not the other. The child feels caught in the middle between parents. Basically, they get the message that … Read more

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I Feel Hopeless and Alone During Divorce

We all have low points in our lives — times when we may feel a bit lost and alone. Going through a divorce or a separation can definitely be one of those times. This reader recently wrote, “I feel hopeless and alone during divorce:”   I feel hopeless and alone. At this point in time … Read more

Valentine's Day while going through a divorce

Valentine’s Day While Going Through A Divorce Can Be A Rough One

Valentine’s Day while going through a divorce isn’t easy for most people. But what if Valentine’s Day was also your wedding anniversary? That’s the case for this reader: Valentine’s Day is my wedding anniversary. This is my first one being separated.It is an awkward time and I don’t feel like I’d ever be able to … Read more

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Going through a divorce? Names you need and why

Going through a divorce is like entering a new place; a place that is completely unfamiliar and unpredictable. It’s a scary place. You don’t know how things work there, you don’t know the language, mistakes can cost you—emotionally and financially, and choosing the wrong people to represent you could make a big difference in the … Read more

Scared of Being Alone After Divorce or Even Terrified?

A Divorced Girl Smiling Facebook Group member posted this question: Is anyone else scared of being alone after divorce? I am terrified. I was married for thirty years – was living separate in the same house as my ex for a year but physically separated in May. I ended up falling into a relationship by … Read more

divorce attorney Tiffany Hughes

My Q & A With Divorce Attorney Tiffany Hughes

  There is a passion and energy I feel when talking to divorce attorney, Tiffany Hughes. Hughes, who is the founder of her Chicago based all-women family law firm, became one of my Divorced Girl Smiling partners about a year ago, and everyone I’ve introduced her to has said the same thing.      This … Read more