divorce regret

Divorce Regret: “I’ve Broken My Own Heart”

I think there are a lot of men and women out there who have divorce regret. Some might not admit it to themselves or to anyone else, others tell everyone they know that they regret getting divorced. I feel for people who have divorce regret. They wish they could turn back time. The divorce regret … Read more

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Dreaming about Your Ex During or After Divorce?

After a separation or divorce, we can have dreams that are, well … confusing. Dreams, unbound by our  conscious inhibitions, paint a picture that we might not be up for. Dreams where you are not behaving according to how you know you feel. Dreaming about your ex during or after divorce can leave you feeling … Read more

How does mediation work

How Does Mediation Work? A Step-by-Step Process

If you are reading this article, you most likely want to get divorced from your spouse.  As painful and scary as it is, by now, you know it is the best thing for you and your children. Now the question becomes, “How?” How do we get divorced in the most productive and peaceful way, and … Read more

negative effects of divorce on children

7 Things That Contribute To Negative Effects of Divorce on Children

Research has shown that the most damaging part of divorce for children is involving them in loyalty binds.  A loyalty bind happens when a child must make a choice that will be wrong with one parent and not the other. The child feels caught in the middle between parents. Basically, they get the message that … Read more

I feel hopeless and alone

I Feel Hopeless and Alone During Divorce

We all have low points in our lives — times when we may feel a bit lost and alone. Going through a divorce or a separation can definitely be one of those times. This reader recently wrote, “I feel hopeless and alone during divorce:”   I feel hopeless and alone. At this point in time … Read more

Valentine's Day while going through a divorce

Valentine’s Day While Going Through A Divorce Can Be A Rough One

Valentine’s Day while going through a divorce isn’t easy for most people. But what if Valentine’s Day was also your wedding anniversary? That’s the case for this reader: Valentine’s Day is my wedding anniversary. This is my first one being separated.It is an awkward time and I don’t feel like I’d ever be able to … Read more

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Going through a divorce? Names you need and why

Going through a divorce is like entering a new place; a place that is completely unfamiliar and unpredictable. It’s a scary place. You don’t know how things work there, you don’t know the language, mistakes can cost you—emotionally and financially, and choosing the wrong people to represent you could make a big difference in the … Read more

divorce attorney Tiffany Hughes

My Q & A With Divorce Attorney Tiffany Hughes

  There is a passion and energy I feel when talking to divorce attorney, Tiffany Hughes. Hughes, who is the founder of her Chicago based all-women family law firm, became one of my Divorced Girl Smiling partners about a year ago, and everyone I’ve introduced her to has said the same thing.      This … Read more

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Greetings and Holiday Advice from Divorced Girl Smiling and Our Partners

The year 2020 will surely be remembered for the following: Coronavirus, quarantining, working from home, online school, toilet paper (LOL), riots, an election, and for my readers, most likely a separation or divorce. If you celebrate Christmas, and/or if you are planning to celebrate New Years, I’d like to offer you some holiday advice, and … Read more

after the divorce is final

After The Divorce is Final: Doesn’t Mean The Grief Is

You are divorced, legally and finally. Now, everyone said, you can start to ‘live again’. After the divorce is final, you learn to breathe again. You exercise, eat well, get rest, stay connected to friends and family. Maybe you meet someone new. All of the things one is advised to do after divorce is final. … Read more