Tips and advice for men and women who have recently split up from a spouse and are now getting divorced.
Divorce is traumatic no matter how long you’ve been married. I filed for divorce seven months after marrying my first husband and it still was traumatic as hell. But, the pain can feel even more insurmountable if you’ve been married for several years, even decades. A client recently asked, “How do you let go of … Read more
From a reader: Anyone else feeling compelled to throw any received holiday photo cards directly in the recycle bin? I’m getting aggravated already when I get texts asking for my mailing address. Last year, going through a divorce, the holidays were heart wrenching, this year, I’m divorced. I go to this place of “what, you … Read more
There are so many different causes of divorce, and every divorce story is unique. Here are a few common causes of divorce: Cheating, excessive arguing, substance abuse, lack of sex, growing apart, physical abuse, and verbal abuse. While all of these reasons are valid and very very significant, I believe that all causes of divorce are … Read more
Ever feel angry about divorce? Sure you do. Anger in a divorce is completely normal, and part of the roller coaster ride of the divorce journey. Here’s what one reader has to say about it: Today, I am rip roaring mad!!!!! I think it’s finally hit me over the head with a frying pan. Up … Read more
I’m having trouble with anxiety. Cannot sleep. Desperately unhappy. How do you sleep when stressed and anxious about your divorce? First, know that you are not alone. Throughout this pandemic specifically, many people are experiencing anxiety and are suffering from many sleepless nights. Add to that the fact that you are either divorced or going … Read more
I’ll never forget the first divorce lawyer I interviewed several years ago when I was first separated. Walking into her office a broken woman, full of fear and anxiety and lacking any self-esteem whatsoever, I actually left the meeting feeling worse (which I didn’t think was possible!) That’s the motivation behind this article, aimed at … Read more
What the heck? He asked you not to show up on Tinder because it was ‘just too painful’ for him. Now you see an announcement on FB that he is IN a relationship. And the woman he’s with has updated her status to ‘in a relationship’ with a different guy every 4 months for the … Read more
I’m a divorced mom who has been divorced almost 2 years. My two young daughters and I moved into a small 2 bedroom apartment shortly after the divorce and have been living there for a couple years. Yesterday I put in a bid on a condo. I should feel proud of myself and happy, but … Read more
A reader asked this question: How do you handle going to work every day when your heart is breaking? Here’s my advice: During my divorce, I remember times that I’d stay up all night, rethinking everything that went wrong in my marriage. I replayed his words, my words, my actions and before you know it, … Read more
Wondering if I will ever find anyone to love me. My Ex told me that No one is ever going to want me…plus a few other words. Reading your note ripped my heart out. The pain you feel is palpable in your words and of course you feel fear and rejection after what your Ex … Read more
I wrote this article when I turned 55: Today I am 55 years old. Yep, double nickels. Not sure how that even happened. I feel so much younger than 55! The thing is, as I reflect on the past year, there have been wonderful, amazing days and weeks, but I’ve had some real challenges this … Read more
I have 3 words for those who can’t cope with divorce. Here they are: Enjoy. Each. Day. Why these three words? Here’s the story. A reader commented on one of my articles, “divorce is a fate worse than death.” Now, my gut reaction to this statement was that this reader has obviously never experienced … Read more
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