revenge affairs

A Look at Revenge Affairs and Why You Shouldn’t Have One

Discovering your partner has cheated is a shocking and emotionally devastating event that can turn your entire world upside down and bring on intense feelings of anger, betrayal, rejection, and abandonment, among others. It is normal to want to get back at your partner by having a sexual fling of your own. However, know this … Read more

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Greetings and Holiday Advice from Divorced Girl Smiling and Our Partners

The year 2020 will surely be remembered for the following: Coronavirus, quarantining, working from home, online school, toilet paper (LOL), riots, an election, and for my readers, most likely a separation or divorce. If you celebrate Christmas, and/or if you are planning to celebrate New Years, I’d like to offer you some holiday advice, and … Read more

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After The Divorce is Final: Doesn’t Mean The Grief Is

You are divorced, legally and finally. Now, everyone said, you can start to ‘live again’. After the divorce is final, you learn to breathe again. You exercise, eat well, get rest, stay connected to friends and family. Maybe you meet someone new. All of the things one is advised to do after divorce is final. … Read more

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How Do You Let Go of Your Husband You Love After 15 years?

Divorce is traumatic no matter how long you’ve been married.  I filed for divorce seven months after marrying my first husband and it still was traumatic as hell.  But, the pain can feel even more insurmountable if you’ve been married for several years, even decades.  A client recently asked, “How do you let go of … Read more

holiday bitterness

Do You Have Holiday Bitterness From Divorce?

From a reader: Anyone else feeling compelled to throw any received holiday photo cards directly in the recycle bin? I’m getting aggravated already when I get texts asking for my mailing address. Last year, going through a divorce, the holidays were heart wrenching, this year, I’m divorced.  I go to this place of “what, you … Read more

causes of divorce

The Root of All Causes of Divorce: Resentment

There are so many different causes of divorce, and every divorce story is unique. Here are a few common causes of divorce: Cheating, excessive arguing, substance abuse, lack of sex, growing apart, physical abuse, and verbal abuse. While all of these reasons are valid and very very significant, I believe that all causes of divorce are … Read more

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How Do You Sleep When Stressed and Anxious about Your Divorce?

I’m having trouble with anxiety. Cannot sleep. Desperately unhappy. How do you sleep when stressed and anxious about your divorce? First, know that you are not alone. Throughout this pandemic specifically, many people are experiencing anxiety and are suffering from many sleepless nights. Add to that the fact that you are either divorced or going … Read more

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How to Find Mr. or Ms. Right…AKA How To Find a Divorce Lawyer

I’ll never forget the first divorce lawyer I interviewed several years ago when I was first separated. Walking into her office a broken woman, full of fear and anxiety and lacking any self-esteem whatsoever, I actually left the meeting feeling worse (which I didn’t think was possible!) That’s the motivation behind this article, aimed at … Read more

how to cope with your ex dating someone new

How To Cope With Your Ex Dating Someone New

What the heck? He asked you not to show up on Tinder because it was ‘just too painful’ for him. Now you see an announcement on FB that he is IN a relationship. And the woman he’s with has updated her status to ‘in a relationship’ with a different guy every 4 months for the … Read more

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Divorced Mom Goes From Small Apartment To Beautiful Condo! Why Is She So Sad?

I’m a divorced mom who has been divorced almost 2 years. My two young daughters and I moved into a small 2 bedroom apartment shortly after the divorce and have been living there for a couple years. Yesterday I put in a bid on a condo. I should feel proud of myself and happy, but … Read more