Tips and advice for men and women who have recently split up from a spouse and are now getting divorced.
From a reader: Decided today we are divorcing after 30 years. He is living in Florida, I’m in Illinois. I wanted to move to Florida to be with him and he said no. Feeling horrible. I am sorry to hear that you are feeling horrible, but if you commit to feeling better, you most certainly … Read more
Staying with someone who cheated on you is a tough call. Every situation is unique. If someone cheats, that doesn’t necessarily mean he/she will do it again. Maybe it was a wakeup call that the marriage needs help. Maybe divorce isn’t the answer. That said, is the phrase “Once a cheater, always a cheater” accurate? … Read more
Advice for a woman who wrote to tell me, “My ex and my best friend are dating:” As I just passed the one-year anniversary of my divorce, I’ve learned that what many had suggested at the time of my separation is most likely true: my ex and my best friend are dating. I have come … Read more
Getting divorced is a major life change, and the process can be emotionally devastating. Having a healthy, productive relationship with your divorce attorney is key in managing the stress and anxiety during divorce. In Atul Gawande’s thought provoking book, “Being Mortal,” he describes different relationships patients have with their doctors. In the oldest and most … Read more
Back in 2007 when I was going through my divorce and feeling immense divorce sadness, stress and fear, people didn’t talk about gratitude and meditation like they do now. Or maybe they did, and I just wasn’t listening. But these days, gratitude is such a buzz word. It is touted as being the key … Read more
Throughout my career, which spans almost ten years, a question I am often asked is “When should you get a divorce?” That might mean, “When is the right time to get a divorce?” or “At what point does it make sense to get a divorce?,” in other words, “How do you know when divorce is … Read more
There are countless difficult aspects of ending a relationship and/or getting divorced. One of the big issues I hear from people—no matter if they wanted the divorce or their spouse left them, is fear of how they will feel if and when their ex starts dating someone else. Picturing him or her in another romantic … Read more
Have you lost your job or primary income source due to the coronavirus crisis? You’re not alone. More than 20 million jobs have been lost and most of the country remains under stay-at-home orders. With household finances reeling and business shutdowns mounting, many people are concerned about keeping up with child support when unemployed, as … Read more
While we all navigate the COVID-19 pandemic, the federal government is in the process of issuing economic impact payments, being referred to by many as federal stimulus checks, to all eligible citizens and U.S. residents. It is important to understand the purpose of the stimulus payments, who is eligible, and how much you may receive. … Read more
As if divorce isn’t hard enough, think about divorce during quarantine. I’m talking about specifically living with your soon-to-be-ex (STBX); being locked down 24/7 with the person you absolutely cannot wait to get away from. Divorce during quarantine can be painful, frustrating and it might drive you in sane. If you’re starting to feel like … Read more
When you’re getting divorced or divorced, parenting time is something that is usually court ordered or agreed upon in mediation. In other words, the schedule that you and your ex set up is usually bound by law. But does that apply to parenting time during COVID-19? What I’m saying is, what if because of Coronavirus, … Read more
Many people wonder how to move on after divorce as a woman. What I mean by that is, perhaps a woman’s life was defined as being a wife. That was her identity. Now she feels lost. This reader is in that situation: I’m struggling with a lot of conflicting emotions about my situation. I’ve been … Read more
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