when your heart is breaking

How Do You Handle Going To Work Every Day When Your Heart is Breaking?

A reader asked this question: How do you handle going to work every day when your heart is breaking? Here’s my advice: During my divorce, I remember times that I’d stay up all night, rethinking everything that went wrong in my marriage. I replayed his words, my words, my actions and before you know it, … Read more

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55 Things I’ve Learned About Life and Love After Divorce

I wrote this article when I turned 55: Today I am 55 years old. Yep, double nickels. Not sure how that even happened. I feel so much younger than 55! The thing is, as I reflect on the past year, there have been wonderful, amazing days and weeks, but I’ve had some real challenges this … Read more

3 Words For Those Who Can’t Cope With Divorce

I have 3 words for those who can’t cope with divorce. Here they are: Enjoy. Each. Day.   Why these three words? Here’s the story. A reader commented on one of my articles, “divorce is a fate worse than death.” Now, my gut reaction to this statement was that this reader has obviously never experienced … Read more

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Consider Having a COVID Talk With The Ex

Everyone has unique thoughts when it comes to how we view COVID, and what safety measures we feel we need to take. It’s important to remember to respect each person’s opinions, and not to judge on someone’s comfort level or lack of comfort when it comes to things like going to the grocery store, traveling, … Read more

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Plastic Surgery and Divorce: Are Breast Implants Marital Assets?

Divorce is often accompanied by physical changes in the divorcing parties.  Men often go gray from the stress, and almost everyone loses weight.  But, some soon-to-be-divorced people take their divorce as an opportunity for physical self-improvement. According to an article published in the Huffington Post, 40% of women going through a divorce said they sought … Read more

engagement ring law

The Engagement Ring Law-How It Applies After a Break-up

Broken engagements come with a lot of distress and headache not only to the couples but the entire family and friends at large. It is by default etiquette rules that an engagement ring should be returned once a wedding has been called off. This is not always the case where a high valuable ring is … Read more

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Paralyzed by Fear and Anxiety When It Comes To Divorce?

It’s something that you’ve thought about for a long time. You’ve been dissatisfied with your marriage for years, yet here you still are. The idea of separating from him or her leaves you feeling a range of emotions from terrified to exhilarated. You want to make a change to make your life better, yet you … Read more

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The Opening of Divorce Courts In Illinois: What That Could Mean For You

Good News! Divorce courts in Illinois are officially open. It has been a long, sometimes stressful few months for so many. With pressing legal issues and limited resources, those who have been waiting to have cases heard in court or addressed in non-court settings can finally find some resolutions. Whether you need a court hearing … Read more

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Advice for Divorced Woman who Writes: I’m Alone On My Birthday

From a divorced woman seeking advice: My birthday is coming up and this is the first time I am alone on my birthday, in a new city with no close friends. Any idea on how I can celebrate on my own? First off, Happy Birthday! The older I get, the more I see the necessity … Read more

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Divorcing After 30 Years: I Wanted to Be With Him and He Said No

From a reader: Decided today we are divorcing after 30 years. He is living in Florida, I’m in Illinois. I wanted to move to Florida to be with him and he said no. Feeling horrible.  I am sorry to hear that you are feeling horrible, but if you commit to feeling better, you most certainly … Read more

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Staying With Someone Who Cheated On You: Is Marriage Counseling the Answer?

Staying with someone who cheated on you is a tough call. Every situation is unique. If someone cheats, that doesn’t necessarily mean he/she will do it again. Maybe it was a wakeup call that the marriage needs help. Maybe divorce isn’t the answer. That said, is the phrase “Once a cheater, always a cheater” accurate? … Read more