Tips and advice for men and women who have recently split up from a spouse and are now getting divorced.
When I went through my divorce I was completely and utterly devastated. At first, that looked like shock and me going completely numb. I remember talking to my best friend night after night, repeating the facts to her and figuring out everything that needed to be done in getting over a divorce. One night during … Read more
Going back to work as a single mom is terrifying. I can speak from firsthand experience. But what I learned from having a full time job and being a mom is that Mommy’s new job can turn out to be the best thing, not just for Mommy, but for the the kids, too! Here is … Read more
Deciding if you should sell your wedding ring after divorce—the essence of bittersweet sentimentality isn’t an easy decision. I get it, which is why my engagement and wedding ring sat in a drawer for about 8 years before I sold them. I ended up selling my wedding ring during a time when I felt … Read more
Since I am both a psychologist and a professional coach, I am constantly asked about the difference between a divorce coach and a therapist. It’s a great question, and one that any consumer should be asking. It’s also important for therapists and coaches to be clear on this so they are not stepping on each … Read more
The Unbreakables by Lisa Barr has a story behind it. In this week’s Love Essentially, I interviewed Barr to find out her story, what inspired her to write her latest novel, and what she hopes readers will gain by reading it. By the way, I met Lisa several years ago when a friend of mine … Read more
Let’s face it. Divorce is expensive. Not only do you have to pay court costs and legal fees, but you are also likely to be racking up therapy bills. Add that to the cost of establishing a second household, plus all of the hidden costs of divorce (moving, selling your home, taxes, separate health insurance, … Read more
Editors note: Going through a breakup or a divorce is emotionally painful, but there are also logistical/practical difficulties that come with the end of a relationship. What I mean by that is, if you are going through a divorce or a breakup, you might be in shock or devastated and sad and confused and angry … Read more
Several years ago, I wrote an article, titled “20 Lies Divorced People Tell themselves.” The producers of the WGN podcast, “Uh-PARENT-ly” happened to see it, and asked me to be a guest on the show to talk about each one of these lies divorce people tell, why people tell them, and how to better cope … Read more
They say “Write about what you know,” which I think is why there are countless books written on the subject of divorce. But not every author offers divorce advice via a memoir or a non-fiction guide book. Lots of writers, including Jackie Pilossoph, decided to write a novel after divorce. My reason for writing a … Read more
Editors note: I read this wonderful article by Lisa and thought it applied so well to those who might be grieving a divorce. I remember people saying things like, “You’re going to be fine,” “You should be glad it happened now while you’re still young and you can get remarried,” or “Stop feeling sorry for … Read more
The news is routinely filled with sensational stories of divorce gone wrong. We read about vindictive spouses who are hell bent on destroying their exes. We read about greedy lawyers who fan the flames of conflict so that divorces last longer and they make more money. But think about it. What we never read about … Read more
I remember reading someone’s Facebook post last year on December 31st, and it read, “Good-bye 2017, I WON’T miss you at all.” Apparently, 2017 was not a good year for her. While I understand the post—her husband left her in early January, 2017 and she was going through a divorce that entire year, I think … Read more
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