Tips and advice for men and women who have recently split up from a spouse and are now getting divorced.
I have to admit I wasn’t a huge fan of season one of Showtime’s The Affair. While I loved the concept—a happy family man and father of four falls for a younger, sexy and married woman, has an affair with her and blows up his marriage, I found the two main characters to be unlikeable … Read more
I have dated and become friends with many divorced men over the years, and I think I have a pretty good idea of some characteristics that a lot of them have. Now, a new play is taking viewers inside the minds of divorced men. “Boys in the Basement” is an Evanston play that was written … Read more
It’s easy to look at divorce as a really, really sad, horrible loss, and I agree that it is. But believe it or not, there are some good things that come with getting divorced. There are pros and cons of divorce. What many men and women (especially those who are newly separated) can’t see is … Read more
When two people get divorced, both hopefully spend some time reflecting on the mistakes they made, which I believe is really healthy in the healing process, and crucial in moving on after divorce. I’ll even go so far as to say that people who don’t acknowledge and don’t accept responsibility for their mistakes can’t heal. … Read more
Here is an email I received from a woman who wrote “I slept with my ex:” Had sex with my soon to be ex husband Saturday night. Our divorce is final Thursday. The divorce was his idea. Not mine. WTF?? Why do I hear about so many people going through a divorce sleeping with … Read more
Of the many difficult aspects of coping with divorce (or the ending of a long-term relationship) are the places that the two of you went that were very special. Restaurants, bars, coffee houses, breakfast places, parks, museums, even vacation spots can be places that when your marriage is over are brutal to even think … Read more
Divorce and exercise should always be used in the same sentence, as I believe that some form of working out–whether it’s weights, intense cardio, balance and core work, or even just brisk walking-helps men and women in coping with divorce and other stressful life situations. In this week’s Love Essentially, published yesterday in Chicago … Read more
I’ll never forget how excited I was to watch the final episode of the first season of The Bachelor. Would Alex Michael give the rose and propose to Amanda or Trista? I remember at the time, my now 13 year-old son was a baby, and we rushed to get him to bed so I wouldn’t … Read more
I received a sweet, endearing email from a 24 year-old worried about his mom and seeking advice in helping her in dealing with divorce and being happy again. Hi Ms. Pilossoph, My mom is the most amazing person, but she is still having a hard time dealing with divorce over 5 years later. I can’t … Read more
“Self help and positive talk is great, but it doesn’t work if you can’t get out of bed,” according to Tamsen Fadal, the New York City 4 time Emmy winning journalist, entrepreneur and author, whose 2008 marriage was featured in the New York Times and whose divorce four years later landed her front and center … Read more
Jackie, I promised to love, honor and cherish him forever & I didn’t break a promise. I would do anything for my life to rewind 4 months & for this to not be happening. I don’t understand nor can I believe that this is my life now; that my husband left me & I’m all … Read more
Anyone who has ever gone through a divorce will tell you what a stressful time it is. Dealing with emotional pain, worrying about the effect the divorce it is having on your children, navigating the legal process, and managing the fear of your new life is overwhelming to say the least. Then there are the … Read more
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