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Who Let the Dogs Out? My BRAND NEW Dating After Divorce Book

Dating after divorce can feel like a nightmare. At least it did for me. When I got divorced in 2008, I made a beeline for husband #2, which was the worst strategy a newly divorced person could take. My plan resulted in: dating all the wrong people, putting up with bad behavior, and putting a … Read more

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What NOT to Say To Someone Going Through a Divorce

When I was newly separated, I was brokenhearted. I also had feelings of fear, anger, resentment and confusion. I felt like I was living in a fog, like maybe I’d wake up the next day and this would all have been a dream. Unfortunately, the nightmare was real. What I do remember so vividly, even … Read more

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Representing Yourself In Family Court: Should You Do It?

A woman who was trying to save money in her divorce was shocked when she talked to a divorce lawyer. “This is crazy!” she said. “The divorce lawyer wants a $5,000 retainer fee – and that’s just the start! He won’t even tell me how much I’ll end up paying him overall. It could be … Read more

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Can’t Make Decisions During Divorce? We Understand!

Can’t make decisions during divorce? You’re not alone. Many people going through a divorce have a hard time making decisions for many reasons. These include:   Insecurity: You don’t have the confidence that the decisions you make will be the right ones. Indecision: Indecisiveness is very common in divorce. After all, these are big decisions … Read more

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Stop Shaming Yourself and Stop Apologizing: You Deserve Better!

To women going through a divorce or who are already divorced: Stop shaming yourself. Stop apologizing. Stop being mean to yourself! Stop criticizing yourself! I came up with the idea for this article after reading a post on LinkedIn that was written by Tracy Coenen, forensic accountant, founder of the wildly successful Divorce Money Guide, … Read more

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Life’s Not Fair – That Includes Your Divorce

Your parents were right: Life’s not fair! They probably said that to you since you were young, and way before you could even imagine how much those words meant while getting divorced! When life doesn’t seem fair, especially in your divorce, it can cause all sorts of unpleasant side effects. The Good, the Bad, and … Read more

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11 Things Divorced People Want To Say To Our Married Friends

Before I got divorced, I had no idea what I would experience, and what life after divorce would look like. So, that being said, divorced people should remember that all of our married friends have no clue about what it’s like going through a divorce or being divorced. Let’s help them out! Here are 11 things … Read more

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Setting Boundaries in Relationships-Especially The One With Your Ex

Setting boundaries in relationships–including the one with your ex is essential. Think of boundaries in your relationships as an important element of your self-care. Boundaries are not meant to punish somebody else. They are meant to honor ourselves. Imagine your boundaries as a personal treaty to help protect your needs and wants and to preserve … Read more

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Myths and Facts About Divorce and College Planning

Going through a divorce or being divorced can bring many uncertainties, especially when it comes to planning and preparing for your child’s college education. In this post, we’ll debunk some common myths and provide facts to help you better navigate planning for college and paying for college. Divorce often feels overwhelming, I know being divorced … Read more

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How Much is a Wife Entitled To in a Divorce?

A question I get asked a lot by newly separated women is: “How much is a wife entitled to in a divorce? This is a valid question and I can understand the urgency of wanting to know, given the fear and anxiety of the uncertainty of your future. Not to mention, the answer to this … Read more

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49 Phrases and Words of Encouragement for a Divorced Woman

I wrote this article several years ago on my 49th birthday, offering 49 phrases and words of encouragement for a divorced woman: Today is my birthday. My 49th birthday. So, in honor of my last year in my 40s I’d like to give you—my readers a gift. Coming from a divorced woman, I’d like to … Read more