breakup advice

Breakup advice: Understanding Your Broken Heart Could Be The Key To Healing

Being in my 50’s, it would be impossible for me to say I haven’t had my heart broken multiple times in my life. Of course when I got divorced it happened, but other men (and even a couple platonic female friends) have broken my heart. That’s why I feel I can offer solid breakup advice. … Read more

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Which is Worse? Ending a Marriage Or Ending a Serious Relationship

Ending a marriage is never easy. In fact, my divorce was one of the most difficult things I have ever been through in my life. But, if you can believe it, I think that ending a serious relationship could be even more painful. Hear me out before you say, “What the heck is she talking … Read more

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The First Breakup After Divorce Hurts More Than The Divorce

Divorce is devastating. For everyone who goes through it. But there’s something that I think might be even worse: the first breakup after divorce. What I mean is, when you get into your first serious relationship after the divorce and it ends. That’s the case with this reader:  Jackie, I am a divorced mom of … Read more

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How Do You Stop Loving Someone? Let Me Count The Ways…

We’ve all heard that divorce story…about the couple who went to court on the day of their divorce, and then after it was final got a hotel room and had sex. I have heard those stories, but never talked with anyone firsthand who admitted they actually did that…until now! This reader tells his story and … Read more

I feel broken

I Feel Broken: Dumped, Angry And In Pain

I’ve been corresponding with a reader who has been divorced for several years, and was recently in a relationship for well over a year, which she thought was happy, healthy, and loving. Until her boyfriend broke up with her via text, causing her to write to me: “I feel broken…” What does it mean to … Read more

I can't live without him

After 3 Years I Can’t Live Without Him Still

I’m not sure there is a woman on earth who hasn’t said or felt these five words: I can’t live without him. The words are usually spoken or thought during or after a breakup, a divorce, or a death.   It’s unbelievably heartbreaking to feel like you can’t live without someone you truly loved and/or … Read more

I miss my ex so much

I Miss My Ex So Much! 9 Things You Can Do

You know the divorce makes sense. Things haven’t been right for a long time. Maybe he hurt you. Maybe he’s not a good person. Everything in your core is telling you being apart is the best thing. Yet, still, there’s a little part of you from time to time who thinks, ‘I miss my ex … Read more

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My Ex Is In Love With Someone Else Now: How To Cope

From a reader who writes,“My ex is in love with someone else now:” I have a very difficult situation. My ex is in love with someone else now. I have been loving my ex wife for 20 years and I’m only 41. We separated about 5 years ago and our divorce was final two years … Read more

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Regretting a Breakup? Advice for Second Thoughts and Doubts

If I had to bet, I would say there has never been a breakup in the history of serious relationships and/or marriages, in which the couple didn’t get back together (or think about getting back together) at least one time before they got divorced. In other words, I believe that breakups in long-term relationships almost … Read more

I got dumped

What ‘I Got Dumped’ Really Means and How To Handle It

When I hear someone say, “I got dumped” I cringe. Why? Because the word “dumped” sounds really harsh, mean and insensitive.   I recently received this text from a friend: “I got dumped. He said there just wasn’t a spark.”   First of all, I don’t believe that people “dump” people. I think that is … Read more

breakup lessons

Ten Breakup Lessons I Learned From My Mother, A Divorce Attorney

Editors note: Going through a breakup or a divorce is emotionally painful, but there are also logistical/practical difficulties that come with the end of a relationship. What I mean by that is, if you are going through a divorce or a breakup, you might be in shock or devastated and sad and confused and angry … Read more