hiring tips

Hiring Tips When Choosing a Divorce Attorney, Mediator and Other Professionals

When starting the divorce process, the first thing people typically do is meet with a divorce attorney or two or three. They then hire one. But how do you know you hired the right person? How do you know that you are choosing for the right reasons? Maybe you listened to your gut, which is … Read more

disadvantages of mediation

Disadvantages of Mediation or Might They Be Advantages?

My partner Brian James and I have been co-mediating for over 15 years.  For the most part, we are quite successful, but occasionally we lose a couple to litigation or they decide to have their attorneys complete the divorce.  If they have been successful in mediating the parenting plan (schedule for their children and holidays … Read more

I wanted the divorce so why am I so sad

I Wanted the Divorce so Why am I So Sad?

For the past 15 years of being a divorce mediator, I’ve seen countless scenarios of divorce. Every single case is unique. That said, there is one thing I find almost always in couples: sadness. Whether you were totally blindsided by your spouse’s decision, or getting divorced was your decision after years of trying to make … Read more

divorce with mediation

How to Convince Your Spouse to Divorce with Mediation

My co-mediation partner and I get weekly calls from prospective clients asking about mediation. “How do I tell my spouse I want to divorce?”  “We are friendly and do not want attorneys involved…” “We both love our children,” “This has been coming for a long time,”  and other similar questions and statements. Oftentimes, my first … Read more