benefits of honesty

16 Lies People Tell and the Benefits of Honesty In A Relationship

There are many things that need to happen to make a relationship healthy and happy. Among these things is honesty from both partners. The benefits of honesty in a relationship cannot be expressed enough, especially when it comes to relationships after divorce. Without it, no other elements in the relationship can truly work. Think about … Read more

first date advice

First Date Advice: What NOT To Do On A First Date

You spend hours picking out the perfect outfit. A mani-pedi is a must. You invest in those boots you’ve had your eye on for weeks, and jog that extra mile, all in an effort to be fresh and ready for your first date with Mr. Hopefully He’s Perfect. But I have some first date advice … Read more

dating after marriage

Dating After Marriage: 5 People You DON’T Want to Date

Most people I know have a love hate relationship when it comes to dating after marriage. Dating after divorce is fun and exciting and sexy if you’re on a date with someone you really like. Dating is awful if you’re sitting there smiling and counting the minutes in your head until the food comes so … Read more

sex on a first date

5 Reasons Sex on a First Date is a Bad Idea

If you ask any woman and she’ll probably tell you that since she was a teenager, she’s always been told not to have sex on a first date. If you ask her why, she’ll most likely say it’s because her mother, or aunt or sister or friend told her that a guy wont contact a … Read more

no contact after first date

No Contact After The First Date? 10 Possible Reasons Why

We’ve all been there. You meet someone, go out with him or her and you develop these wonderful feelings. The idea of this person seems so promising! Maybe he took your phone number after a conversation at a local bar where sparks were flying everywhere. Or, perhaps your first date with him is one you’d … Read more

lies we tell ourselves

20 Lies We Tell Ourselves in Dating after Divorce

Let’s be honest. Dating after divorce isn’t easy. It’s sort of like a roller coaster. Great dates make us giddy and hopeful and inspired, but a string of bad dates can cause frustration, along with feelings of hopelessness and that awful question, “Will I ever meet someone and fall in love again?” When it comes … Read more

I want a real relationship

Advice for: “I Want A Real Relationship”

What is a “real relationship?” I feel like I can answer that question because I have been in relationships that didn’t really feel “real” and I’ve also been in “real relationships,” and I can tell you, the two are very very different. I can also say that real is unbelievably better and more fulfilling! Here … Read more

what makes a man want to get married

What Makes A Man Want To Get Married? These 9 Things

What makes a man want to get married? In my decade-long dating after divorce journey, I met, talked with, dated, became friends with, and got into relationships with dozens of divorced men, so I feel like I know the divorced man pretty darn well. Before I generalize and tell you who the divorced man is, … Read more

fear of dating

3 Words For Those Who Have A Fear Of Dating

 I feel like I’ve gotten a lot of emails lately from readers who express a fear of dating after divorce. Having experienced it myself, I can say firsthand that I don’t blame them! Dating after divorce is terrifying for anyone. Fear of dating, especially after divorce is very common, normal and understandable. But that doesn’t … Read more

meet single people

8 Places to Meet Single People in the Suburbs And None are Bars!

Almost every divorced man or woman I know has made a comment at one time or another about how difficult it is to meet single people in the suburbs. After all, it’s easy to picture suburbia as a multitude of residential neighborhoods with tree lined street after tree lined street of picture perfect homes where … Read more

dating someone who is hot and cold

Dating Someone Who is Hot and Cold Can Really Burn!

Dating someone who is hot and cold is seriously the worst. I was there. More than a decade later, I can still remember how I felt when I was dating a guy who was hot and cold. On our first date, he took me to a really nice restaurant where the ambience was romantic, the … Read more

first date tips

First Date Tips: Good And Bad Topics of Conversation

Although they can be hopeful, exciting and fun, let’s be honest, first dates can consist of massive moments of awkward silence. For example, feeling like you have food between your teeth, wondering if he is noticing your nervousness, regretting your choice in what you wore, thinking you said something really stupid and wishing you could … Read more