When someone goes through a divorce or a long term relationship breakup, one of the many hard things about it is the feeling of insecurity because you are losing someone to whom you showed incredible vulnerability. Which…might cause you to have a fear of vulnerability with future dating partners. Think about it. When you were … Read more
What is a “real relationship?” I feel like I can answer that question because I have been in relationships that didn’t really feel “real” and I’ve also been in “real relationships,” and I can tell you, the two are very very different. I can also say that real is unbelievably better and more fulfilling! Here … Read more
I have some great dating advice, sparked by a conversation I recently had with a friend. My friend has been divorced for a couple years and recently ended a relationship that lasted for several months. Looking back, every time I would ask her how it was going with this guy, she would say, “Well…” … Read more
When the honeymoon phase ends, and realism sets in, it can be tempting to wonder: Wait, am I settling in my relationship? It’s a legit question. After all, with the seemingly endless supply of options nowadays (cue: swipe, swipe), it can be tough to discern if the person you’re with is a realistic, amazing fit—or just a sign that … Read more
I personally have never dated a widower, but I know a lot of men and women who have. From what they tell me, dating a widower isn’t easy. Then again, neither is dating someone who is divorced. What are the differences? What are the challenges of dating a widower? And, are there positives? I decided … Read more
I want to share something that happened to me while dating in an effort to make a few really good points about bad dating behavior and why you should steer clear from someone exhibiting it. Several years ago, I met someone in a business setting, who subsequently called and asked me out. We set up … Read more
What’s the opposite of a divorced man? If you answered “a married man” you’re wrong. When it comes to dating, the opposite of a divorced man is a guy who has never been married! Dating a 40 year old man who has never been married is interesting. I did it. Here’s my story. One night, … Read more
Falling in love after 50 is really really surprising to men and women. How I know this is, I’ve gotten countless emails from readers who are getting divorced and they write that a huge fear for them is that they will never find love again. Then, the same people email me 6 months or a … Read more
I feel like I’ve gotten a lot of emails lately from readers who express a fear of dating after divorce. Having experienced it myself, I can say firsthand that I don’t blame them! Dating after divorce is terrifying for anyone. Fear of dating, especially after divorce is very common, normal and understandable. But that doesn’t … Read more
As someone who dated from the time I was 16 until I got married at 35, and then dated again at 41 until I was 49, I have a lot to say on the subject of dating, both before and after divorce. In many ways, dating as a teenager isn’t much different than dating in … Read more
Almost every divorced man or woman I know has made a comment at one time or another about how difficult it is to meet single people in the suburbs. After all, it’s easy to picture suburbia as a multitude of residential neighborhoods with tree lined street after tree lined street of picture perfect homes where … Read more
A Divorced Girl Smiling reader wrote this: I am recently divorced and not sure I want to get into another relationship right away, but don’t want to sleep around either. Is casual dating without sex even possible? And, how long should you casually date someone before they expect it to be more? How long should … Read more
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