Want to Minimize Divorce Attorney Fees? Read this!

There are many components that add to the stress of going through a divorce, one of them being divorce attorney fees. Usually already concerned about finances, couples going through a divorce are now receiving a new monthly expense that can seem overwhelming and scary. That said, hiring an effective attorney who puts in the time … Read more

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What Should You Do With Your Wedding Photos After Divorce?

I’ll never forget how I felt when I realized I found “the one.” Forget the guy, I’m talking about my wedding dress! Standing in front of the mirror in an off white strapless Werkstatt gown, sophisticated with a little bling, but classy and elegant, I felt so beautiful and happy. All my dreams were coming … Read more

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The Newly Separated Get Unexpected Gifts

When I was newly separated, a few people sent me cards, which I appreciated, and a couple people actually got me gifts! I remember laughing while opening up a little lipstick pouch given to me by a girlfriend, and thinking, ‘She’s giving me a lipstick case as a small hint that if I want to … Read more

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Why Couldn’t He Change For Me? We Have Answers

One of the most difficult, frustrating aspects of a break up or a divorce is seeing the other person become involved with someone else, and not only appearing to be blissfully happy, but seemingly being the perfect spouse! It’s crazy, it’s infuriating, and  it’s hard to comprehend. Now he’s doing all these things with this … Read more

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I Am Angry With God About My Divorce

Read this email I received from a newly separated mom, who says, “I am angry with God about my divorce.”   I find myself completely hopeless and I am angry with God about my divorce.  My 3rd husband, for whom I left my 2nd husband just could not handle being a stepfather and hated my … Read more

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He Has A New Girlfriend Already! How To Handle It

Your divorce isn’t even final yet, and he has a new girlfriend already. Here she is, all smiles, happy and glowing. Her hair is perfect. Her nails are always done, even her toenails look good. This girl has prepped to the hilt. She’s still in that new relationship phase when she’s got to look perfect … Read more

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How To Deal With An Angry Ex Husband Sending Mean Texts

Couples often show their worst selves during a divorce, and that includes mean and angry text messages and/or emails. It’s not easy trying to figure out how to deal with an angry ex husband sending mean messages, especially when you’re not expecting them.  Let me explain… Picture this. You are sitting in front of the … Read more

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Falling in Love With Someone Else When You’re Married

Is falling in love with someone else when you’re married possible? What I mean is, I’ve heard many people say that they fell in love with someone else while married, and I just don’t know if they really fell in love, or if they were just unhappy in the marriage and used the affair to … Read more

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Divorce Advice for “I Hate My Ex Husband”

From a Divorced Girl Smiling reader: I hate my ex husband.  I know it is not good to hold on to anger.  I have even emailed him and told him I forgive him for what he did.  I have tried really hard to forgive him.  But deep down I hate him and I can’t let … Read more

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What I Realized About Divorce And Heartbreak When I Slipped On Ice…And Then Slipped Again

Divorce and heartbreak go hand in hand. Anyone who has ever experienced divorce has experienced heartbreak. There is no avoiding it. There just isn’t. I can tell you firsthand that heartbreak is exhausting. Kind of like the winters in Chicago. If you live here or somewhere else in the Midwest, you get it. I know…you … Read more

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10 Pieces Of Really Bad Divorce Advice

While I was going through my divorce and dating after divorce, I received all kinds of divorce advice. Some made sense, some didn’t seem to make sense, and some I didn’t agree with at all. In other words, I got some really bad divorce advice from some people. During the past several years, (the time … Read more

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Going Through A Divorce? A Word That Will Keep You Out of The Garbage Chute

“Daddy, I want it now!” whined Veruca Salt throughout the 1971 classic film, Willy Wonka & the Chocolate Factory. I often wondered why Salt couldn’t wait a day and just ask her dad to give Mr. Wonka a call to talk about the golden goose. If she’d have just had some PATIENCE and enjoyed the … Read more