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Chicago Divorce Attorney Answers Your Questions

Daniel Stefani has been a Chicago divorce attorney for almost 3 decades, and is the co-Founder of the law firm, Katz & Stefani. In his guest post, Stefani offers some common questions he hears from newly separated clients, along with his answers and advice.    Common Questions Chicago Divorce Attorney, Daniel Stefani Hears “How much … Read more

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Who Gives The Best Divorce Advice And Who You Should Ignore

Tell someone you are divorced (or getting divorced) and you are sure to get an earful, most times without even asking! “I had a feeling…” “Men are such jerks!” “I never liked him anyhow” “Oh, I’m so sorry, was he cheating?” and my favorite, (and this is usually accompanied by the person putting his or … Read more

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I Need a Divorce Even Though Our Marriage Looks Okay

A Divorced Girl Smiling Facebook group page member posted the following question: Has anyone here been the one who initiated the separation/divorce simply because they found their marriage toxic and damaging to their mental health?  I need a divorce. My husband didn’t cheat or hit me and he strongly believes those are the only biblical … Read more

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First Date Tips: Good And Bad Topics of Conversation

Although they can be hopeful, exciting and fun, let’s be honest, first dates can consist of massive moments of awkward silence. For example, feeling like you have food between your teeth, wondering if he is noticing your nervousness, regretting your choice in what you wore, thinking you said something really stupid and wishing you could … Read more

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Divorce Regret: “I’ve Broken My Own Heart”

I think there are a lot of men and women out there who have divorce regret. Some might not admit it to themselves or to anyone else, others tell everyone they know that they regret getting divorced. I feel for people who have divorce regret. They wish they could turn back time. The divorce regret … Read more

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The Root of All Causes of Divorce: Resentment

There are so many different causes of divorce, and every divorce story is unique. Here are a few common causes of divorce: Cheating, excessive arguing, substance abuse, lack of sex, growing apart, physical abuse, and verbal abuse. While all of these reasons are valid and very very significant, I believe that all causes of divorce are … Read more

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Should This Woman Give Up On Her Cheating Husband?

Read this woman’s email, which tells the story of her cheating husband, their trips to discernment counseling (which is a process where a couple decides if they should try to work things out or get divorced), and some of her husband’s remarks. email from a woman with a cheating husband: Four months ago, after my … Read more

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Introducing The Kids To The Boyfriend? 5 Questions To Ask yourself

It’s hard to know when the time is right for introducing the kids to the boyfriend. You might be concerned about jumping the gun, acting too soon, or misjudging things. You wonder … Will this relationship continue to grow, or last at all? What if your boyfriend doesn’t get your kids, or isn’t into your … Read more

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55 Things I’ve Learned About Life and Love After Divorce

I wrote this article when I turned 55: Today I am 55 years old. Yep, double nickels. Not sure how that even happened. I feel so much younger than 55! The thing is, as I reflect on the past year, there have been wonderful, amazing days and weeks, but I’ve had some real challenges this … Read more

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Divorcing After 30 Years: I Wanted to Be With Him and He Said No

From a reader: Decided today we are divorcing after 30 years. He is living in Florida, I’m in Illinois. I wanted to move to Florida to be with him and he said no. Feeling horrible.  I am sorry to hear that you are feeling horrible, but if you commit to feeling better, you most certainly … Read more

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When Should You Get A Divorce? Answers To Your Questions

Throughout my career, which spans almost ten years, a question I am often asked is “When should you get a divorce?” That might mean, “When is the right time to get a divorce?” or “At what point does it make sense to get a divorce?,” in other words, “How do you know when divorce is … Read more

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How To Move On After Divorce As A Woman–Not A Wife

Many people wonder how to move on after divorce as a woman. What I mean by that is, perhaps a woman’s life was defined as being a wife. That was her identity. Now she feels lost. This reader is in that situation: I’m struggling with a lot of conflicting emotions about my situation. I’ve been … Read more