Change is a bitch, isn’t it? It can feel strange, uncomfortable and scary. I think that fear of change is one of the biggest stressors of divorce. Whether your spouse left you or you left him, change is scary, and probably one of the most difficult aspects of getting divorced. Even if deep in your … Read more
During my initial consultation with a client, there is one question he or she almost always asks: How much does a divorce cost? It’s a very difficult question to answer because there are so many factors involved in a divorce case, and those factors are what dictates the cost. Here are 8 factors that … Read more
Holidays can be rough for those getting divorced. Think about it. How hard was that first Valentine’s Day when you are separated? Or Mother’s Day? Or your birthday? For me, they were all “firsts,” and they were difficult, but not as difficult as I thought they would be. It’s the anxiety beforehand that causes feelings … Read more
I’d walk around on the verge of tears all day long, every day. I felt really scared. I felt sad. I felt angry. I felt like a failure. I felt worried about my young children. And, I felt very very alone. I’m referring to a time in my life several years ago, when I was … Read more
Couples often show their worst selves during a divorce, and that includes mean and angry text messages and/or emails. It’s not easy trying to figure out how to deal with an angry ex husband sending mean messages, especially when you’re not expecting them. Let me explain… Picture this. You are sitting in front of the … Read more
There are many reasons people get divorced, but for the purpose of this article, let’s exclude the biggie deal breakers: cheating, addiction, or verbal and physical abuse. What happens when someone decides to get divorced because they have a lack of like? What do I mean by that? I’m talking about the person who says, … Read more
Don’t you feel like when you get divorced, there are two camps, and most people feel like they need to be in one? There are a few people who try to stay neutral, but then it’s just awkward, and let’s be honest, you can tell whose side they’re on. With the camps come newly … Read more
As a rule, when people ask me, “Should I be considering a divorce?” I try not to share whether I think they should or should not, and instead give my insight into their situation in hopes the answer comes to them. But in some cases, I just can’t help answering the question because my opinion … Read more
Mediation is a word people usually are not familiar with unless they are going through a divorce. Even when you hear the word mediation, it can sound confusing, complicated and even scary—especially if you hear myths about mediation that are simply just false. The truth is, mediation is the exact opposite of confusing, complicated and … Read more
From a reader: Decided today we are divorcing after 30 years. He is living in Florida, I’m in Illinois. I wanted to move to Florida to be with him and he said no. Feeling horrible. I am sorry to hear that you are feeling horrible, but if you commit to feeling better, you most certainly … Read more
There are countless difficult aspects of ending a relationship and/or getting divorced. One of the big issues I hear from people—no matter if they wanted the divorce or their spouse left them, is fear of how they will feel if and when their ex starts dating someone else. Picturing him or her in another romantic … Read more
Lies in marriage is a big reason for divorce. But if you’re getting divorced because of it, how do you heal yourself from the lies? How do you cope with the pent up resentment? And how do you move on? Here’s one reader’s story and question: How do I reconcile lies in marriage–being lied to … Read more
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