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Divorce Advice: 9 Things For Rock Bottom

Divorce is a process. It’s a roller coaster ride. But during the ride, I think there’s a point when people feel like they’ve hit rock bottom. This article addresses rock bottom, and some divorce advice if/when you feel you are there. Rock bottom could be when the marriage is so bad that the person feels … Read more

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How To Survive Divorce: 15 Tips To Getting Through It

From a recently separated reader:  I’m going through a divorce after 21 years of marriage and want to know how to survive divorce. Will I survive? I felt strong until we sold our house and I actually moved out. I’m sick, sad, and very depressed. I don’t know who I am without him and I … Read more

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Surviving Loneliness After Divorce: It’s Up to You

Loneliness might be the most painful emotion a person can have. It can feel empty and scary and sad and unfair. Being lonely can make a person feel sorry for him or herself. It can make a person feel angry, like “Why me?” It can make someone feel unworthy of love, or like maybe they … Read more

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What are the Emotional Benefits of Having a Dog after Divorce?

There are so many emotional benefits of having a dog, especially during or after divorce, and that’s what I’d like to share in this article.   Believe me when I tell you that I was never a dog person. I didn’t dislike dogs, but other than a casual “courtesy pet” when I saw my friends’ … Read more

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I Feel Hopeless. How to Get to Happy After Divorce

Shock, fear, anxiety, depression, anger, frustration and bitterness are all difficult but common feelings during divorce. Then there’s hopelessness; those times when you feel like you’ve hit rock bottom, nothing will ever get better, and things will never change: the times you say to your girlfriends, “I feel hopeless.” For me, hopelessness was one of … Read more

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How to Tell Your Kids About the Divorce: 17 Things to Say

Thinking about how to tell your kids about the divorce? That is perhaps the most heartbreaking and difficult aspect of a divorce. As parents, we are all so protective of our children, both physically and emotionally, and the last thing a parent wants to do is deliver news about divorce to the children that will … Read more

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Starting Over After Divorce At 40 And Rebuilding Your Life

From a reader: How do I rebuild my life after divorce? I’ve sunken into a deep depression and feel scared about starting over after divorce at 40. I’ve been with my husband for over 13 years and I found out that this is the third time he has cheated on me. Prior it was Internet/phone … Read more

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How to be Independent in Life after Divorce

For many people, one of the scariest things about getting divorced is having to be much more independent. For example, I have a friend who moved right from her parent’s house into the home she shared with her husband for 30 years until they got divorced. I remember when she was going through her divorce, … Read more

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My Ex Is In Love With Someone Else Now: How To Cope

From a reader who writes,“My ex is in love with someone else now:” I have a very difficult situation. My ex is in love with someone else now. I have been loving my ex wife for 20 years and I’m only 41. We separated about 5 years ago and our divorce was final two years … Read more

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My Ex Hates Me: 8 Reasons Why He’s Angry And Hateful Towards You

Have you ever just felt like, ‘My ex hates me’? Sure you have, and it’s frustrating. It’s hard to understand how a person who used to be your husband (or wife) can switch gears so abruptly in a divorce. What I mean by that is, once loving, kind and caring towards you in your marriage, … Read more

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What’s Up with the Negative Self-Talk During Divorce? Just Stop.

Ever talk to yourself? Of course you do. “Why am I being so stupid?” “Why did I say that to her?” “I hope I didn’t say anything dumb.” “This dress used to be fit so much better.” “I’m old.” “I screwed up again.” Sound familiar? I bet most people engage in this kind of negative … Read more

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Should This Woman Regret Getting Divorced? Nope.

Do people get divorced and never look back? Some do. But I think most divorced men and women spend weeks, months, years, and even decades in some cases, rehashing things that happened in their marriage, looking back and second guessing decisions they made before, during and after their divorce.  Some wonder if they gave up … Read more