It’s easy to look at divorce as a really, really sad, horrible loss, and I agree that it is. But believe it or not, there are some good things that come with getting divorced. There are pros and cons of divorce. What many men and women (especially those who are newly separated) can’t see is … Read more
Here is an email I received from a woman who wrote “I slept with my ex:” Had sex with my soon to be ex husband Saturday night. Our divorce is final Thursday. The divorce was his idea. Not mine. WTF?? Why do I hear about so many people going through a divorce sleeping with … Read more
Of the many difficult aspects of coping with divorce (or the ending of a long-term relationship) are the places that the two of you went that were very special. Restaurants, bars, coffee houses, breakfast places, parks, museums, even vacation spots can be places that when your marriage is over are brutal to even think … Read more
“Self help and positive talk is great, but it doesn’t work if you can’t get out of bed,” according to Tamsen Fadal, the New York City 4 time Emmy winning journalist, entrepreneur and author, whose 2008 marriage was featured in the New York Times and whose divorce four years later landed her front and center … Read more
Jackie, I promised to love, honor and cherish him forever & I didn’t break a promise. I would do anything for my life to rewind 4 months & for this to not be happening. I don’t understand nor can I believe that this is my life now; that my husband left me & I’m all … Read more
From a reader: Jackie, neither one of us wants to get back together, but do people ever talk to their ex’s as friends? In other words, is it possible to be friends with your ex? When I was in my thirties, living in Boston, I dated a guy for a few months and it … Read more
It is hard to believe that it’s been two years since I launched Divorced Girl Smiling. An idea that began on the balcony of my parent’s Florida home, when my then 86 year-old dad said, “You should write about divorce,” my little divorce blog has blossomed into a brand that in my heart I feel … Read more
Having trouble in healing after divorce? This reader is: I My ex husband and I were together for 8 years when he told me he wasn’t happy and that he was done. I tried marriage counseling and he put no effort into it. How do I get over all of this hurt? I mean to love … Read more
Divorced Girl Smiling received this e-mail from a young woman seeking divorce advice. It made me realize how little I write about divorce with no kids involved (with the exception of second marriages that end in divorce with no kids.) But what I want to say is that divorce is painful whether the couple has … Read more
Everyone I know says they’ve heard of couple, who on the day their divorce was finalized, went straight from the courthouse to a hotel room, where they secretly met up and had sex. Sounds like a great movie scene, but in reality, I’ve never known anyone who actually told me firsthand that he or she … Read more
I don’t know one divorced woman or man (or anyone on earth-divorced or not) who doesn’t have days or even longer times when things seem to be imploding in their worlds. In my own situation, I describe those periods of time as feeling like I’m in a dodge ball game, and the balls just keep … Read more
I’m not sure I’ve ever met a person going through a divorce who didn’t describe it as “ugly.” Isn’t an ugly divorce sort of expected? I mean, we can all say we know this one couple getting divorced who are really amicable, who are still “best friends” and who have made the transition easy … Read more
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