There are many different kinds of affairs. They include one-night stands, flings, emotional affairs, affairs that never go beyond some flirty texting and/or talking, affairs where one person is married, and affairs when both parties are married. The first thing I want to say is that having affair is a horrible thing to do, … Read more
Can you imagine how difficult it would be confronting a cheater? “Um, honey…(in that walking on eggshell tone), can I talk to you?” I’ve done it and let me tell you, it’s brutal. It makes me angry to think that the person confronting the cheater has to stress and worry about it, when it’s the … Read more
What is a “real relationship?” I feel like I can answer that question because I have been in relationships that didn’t really feel “real” and I’ve also been in “real relationships,” and I can tell you, the two are very very different. I can also say that real is unbelievably better and more fulfilling! Here … Read more
There are givers and takers in relationships. That doesn’t mean that in every relationship, there is one giver and one taker. That might be the case, but a relationship could also have two takers or two givers. Or, more commonly, in every relationship, each person is a percentage of a giver and a percentage of … Read more
I get a lot of emails from readers who write, “I’m having an affair.” They either want to confess because they feel guilty, and/or they want to know if it’s going to work out and if so, how. I try not to judge people having affairs because every situation is unique. That said, I think … Read more
Divorced Girl Smiling received this comment from a reader. The headline: “My wife wants a divorce.” I have estimated that Divorced Girl Smiling gets about 70% of its traffic from women and 30% from men. So, this article is definitely meant to give advice to men whose wives want a divorce. But, I thought it … Read more
“How do I leave my husband?” is a question that pops up on Divorced Girl Smiling a lot. I think this is a question that is beyond painful, and a very difficult one. It’s really, really, really, really hard to leave someone, no matter what the circumstances are. It’s hard to end something long-term, it’s … Read more
From a reader: My husband is miserable in our marriage. We have been together for over 20 years. Things started getting really bad when he became very unhappy with this job (and life in general it seemed) about 5 years ago. We seem to have very different ideas about how to approach life’s challenges. I … Read more
When I hear someone say, “I got dumped” I cringe. Why? Because the word “dumped” sounds really harsh, mean and insensitive. I recently received this text from a friend: “I got dumped. He said there just wasn’t a spark.” First of all, I don’t believe that people “dump” people. I think that is … Read more
From a reader: Last year, my husband cheated. We have been together for 8 years. It was a one time thing with someone he met in a bar and he has moved mountains to make it up to me. I think I still want a divorce, though. I just don’t know. Should I leave my … Read more
My clients often tell me about people in their lives who are challenging and thus cause them to be walking on eggshells. My question to my clients is always, “Whose eggshells are they?” What I am trying to ask my clients is, “Who is responsible for the feelings and reactions of others?” If … Read more
I have written many articles on the importance of trust, respect, attraction and other things needed for a healthy, loving relationship. But couples will not be able to sustain these things without one component. In other words, what’s the one word that makes the difference between staying happy together or being unhappy together and/or getting … Read more
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