What is it about finding and keeping good love that seems so difficult and/or challenging for some of us? You hear about the divorce rate being at an all-time high- especially for people over 50 who are becoming empty nesters and losing the glue that held their families together. But why is it so complicated … Read more
In this week’s Love Essentially, I feature what I think is a great book for couples. It’s meant to foster conversation and bring couples closer together. Here is the article: New relationship book is all questions, no advice by Jackie Pilossoph for Chicago Tribune Media Group How well do you really know your partner? Do … Read more
A common refrain of toddlers and adults alike is, “You made me so angry.” Or “You made me so sad.” Or “Because you acted that way, you made me act this way back to you.” It’s a version of, “The devil made me do it.” It’s a complete lack of personal responsibility and doomed to … Read more
All day long, we are bombarded with emails and texts, and it can get overwhelming. But how many of those messages are sent with the intent of love? A fraction. In this week’s Love Essentially, I address the importance of texting love, meaning sending nice messages to those you love and care for, just to … Read more
A huge issue in a faltering romantic relationship is when one or both people stop communicating effectively. One aspect of this is when instead of coming out and asking for things they want, hold everything inside and then become angry and resentful toward the other person because they aren’t getting what they want/need. Asking for … Read more
Ever know someone who was needy in a relationship? Perhaps an ex? Or maybe you? Let’s talk about it. I was talking with a client who has been in the dating scene since he got divorced several years ago, and has been really working on understanding what he needs in a relationship. He is finding … Read more
Have you ever heard this saying, “Happy wife, happy life?” Or, “It’s my job to make my husband happy?” Or, “He just doesn’t make me happy?” I so often hear people talking about being responsible for someone else’s happiness or holding someone responsible for their satisfaction in life. Think about the pressure of that statement, … Read more
Most of us have heard of the concept of looking at our relationship with our partner as a garden that we plant and tend. The concept being that as with a garden, we plant the seeds of our relationship with another, and watch as it blooms into something that brings beauty and joy into our … Read more
Do you have a friend who is always late, but you put up with it because she’s always there for you no matter what? Or what about that friend who constantly complains about her life and takes no action to improve it, but you accept that about her because you know she’s in a tough spot and you’re … Read more
Jackie, I need some relationship advice. What is a better relationship? Comfortable and good enough, where your life is generally better but you’re not exactly in a rush to see the girlfriend or “Head over Heels in love:” where there is a ton of passion but that’s the only thing notable. My gut reaction … Read more
People’s first reaction to hearing about a couple sleeping in separate bedrooms is to assume they are headed for divorce. While that might be true for some couples, there is an overwhelming number of couples who are sleeping in separate bedrooms for another reason: snoring and other sleep issues that might keep the other person … Read more
A friend of mine was telling me that he recently went out for some drinks with a group of his buddies. All the guys are over 40 and all married with kids except for one guy, who is divorced and recently remarried. My friend explained that although all the guys were very happy for him … Read more
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